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Love is precious and life is fragile. Grief is a painful process, indeed. I find it so painful to see someone I love suffer. To see my loved one in pain or in fear just breaks my heart. I wish I could turn away from those painful feelings and be a bit more distant, a bit more matter-of-fact. But I realize that would also mean that I was a bit less in touch with love. And that is not something I would wish to give up.
To be true to my best self, I must embrace the reality that the more I love, the more painful the loss. In writing about the death of his dear friend, the poet Tennyson expressed this truth in the music and rhythm of these words:. We are often undecided about the answer, plagued by the question at a very deep level. Much of the isolation we experience in life is related to this fear of loss.
If we stay distant, we imagine we protect ourselves. This is very unconsciousof course. How sad it would be to live our lives in a mode of self-protection that costs us some of the most precious experiences of life: to love and to be loved.
We exchange a life of fulfillment for a life of safety. We exchange one kind of pain for another: the pain of love-and-loss for the pain of loneliness.
We must each ask ourselves if that is a trade we are willing to make. Love costs so much because it gives so much. For me, that is a trade-off worth its weight in gold. Jennifer Kunst, Ph. Worry is driven by mood, not logic.
Anxiety holds your deepest yearnings. And you can subdue it for good. Three experts turn everything you know about anxiety inside out. Jennifer Kunst Ph. A Hehrinker's Guide to the Galaxy. Yes, Yes, It Is! Love is worth the risk.
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Why do we say "It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all"?